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Permalink Reply by Andrew Kersten on May 8, 2008 at 3:37pm

What I would do is go to the cheif or ranking officer at your station. There is no room for that in the fire service.

Permalink Reply by Paul Montpetit on May 8, 2008 at 3:45pm

Sounds to me like there may be two attitudes that might need a little adjusting here...your officers should get you both together abd work things out....there is NO room in the fireservice for this bull....your lives may depend on each other...then what....?? I would bet you wouldn't be calling each other names....this isn't a game.....people can and do die every day in this line of work.....you BOTH need to grow up a little....You don't have to like one another...but you do have to work with each other....Stay safe...Keep the Faith (Think about that one)....Paul.....PS sorry if I was a little harsh...but its what I think and that's what you asked for...

Permalink Reply by Ani Malool on May 8, 2008 at 3:57pm

That is redic. I would not stand for that. If I were her, I wouldn't be laughing at you cause what if you're her partner in a house fire. I know I sure as hell want my partner to be comforable with the scott. She should be helping you, not laughing at you and being a bitch. She's probably jealous cause you're a better firefighter than her lol you need to go to your ranking officer. She shouldn't be in the firehouse to flirt with guys... go to a bar and do that.

Permalink Reply by Engineco913 on May 8, 2008 at 4:00pm

Why not ask her how she wears her hair under her helmet? Great minds never forget. ;)

Permalink Reply by Sandy113 on May 9, 2008 at 1:32pm

i actually did find the best solution to that problem lol...i cut it to about my chin and i wear a bandana lol

Permalink Reply by Tim on May 8, 2008 at 4:03pm

Sandy,
I know how you feel, I am in a situation similar where I do not get along with someone as well. When I brought the issue forward here on this site, I am getting slammed by several people here on this site, they think I am being a jerk.
My thoughts are to try and approach this other person, (male or female) and try to work things out without dragging the higher-ups into it. If you cannot, well you have 2 choices, deal with her or say something to your superiors. I personally dont like putting up with this stuff, since this is supposed to be a more professional field, but as I am finding out, that is not always the case.
As I have been told on this site by others, "we only hear your side of the story...." well thats true here too. Without knowing the full story I can only assume that you are frustrated, as I am too.
If you figure out an answer let me know. . . . .
As far as I can figure, if you don't at least work SOME kind of a solution out with this person, this will get worse, and the situation will rear it's ugly head at the worst time.
just take everything you get here with a grain of salt, lol, so far it seems though that the few replies you have gotten are at least adult in their manor, which is better than what I have gotten.
Good luck and let me know how it works out

Permalink Reply by Sean Crotty on May 8, 2008 at 4:42pm

There are three sides to every story. Yours, hers and somewhere in the middle; the truth.
I think you found your match here Tim, maybe she can relate.
I know there have been some real pressing issues raised by Sandy.........bounce some of your troubles off her...she seems to be the more compassionate type you were looking for.

Permalink Reply by Kristy Oxholm on May 8, 2008 at 4:54pm

Sandy,

I think you need to take a good hard look at the whole situation. If you had your hood on backwards and couldn't see, how do you know she was laughing at you and not something else?
You refer to her as a complete b-tch, but then mention the thought of punching her in the face. Even if you were just using that as a figure of speech, it shows that you are not thinking about the problem in a mature manner.

I have had issues like this in the past. I have found that the best thing to do is to grit my teeth and see if the situation gets better on its own. Some have (in fact some of those people are now among my closest friends), some haven't. If the situation doesn't get better then you have to decide if you want to go to an officer and work through the chain of command.

Good luck!
Kristy

Permalink Reply by Sandy113 on May 9, 2008 at 1:36pm

I know she was laughing at me because afterwads i asked the officer that had been runing the drill for me. and i have been just sitting back and seeing if things will work themselves out- and they are not. and yes i did mention punching her in the face (and would never do it unless she took the first swing) but thats just cause im so frustrated- i never did anything to this girl to deserve this kind of treatment.

Permalink Reply by Joe Stoltz on May 8, 2008 at 10:00pm

Don't do anything; ignore her. Everyone makes mistakes, especially when training on new things for the first time. Great - that's what training is all about. Make mistakes, learn from them, and move on. If she's immature enough to laugh at others' mistakes she hasn't been sufficiently humbled yet; her turn will come.

As I stated in another post: focus on becoming the best you can be. Learn all you can about the business; train; ask questions; take notes; do whatever it takes to excel.

Pretty soon she won't be laughing. And, you will make your father some kind of proud.

Permalink Reply by Sandy113 on May 9, 2008 at 1:37pm

this isnt the only issue i have with her or ignoring would be great!

and i did recently make my dad some kind of proud- i told him i wanna work for fdny!

Permalink Reply by Patrick Twohig on May 8, 2008 at 10:34pm

It is a proven fact that that two woman cant get along on the same shift. I think the best thing to do is mind your own bussiness and strive to be the best you can. In todays service Chiefs dont like people that come to them with problems about other members, they feel we are adults and can handle it ourselves. I have a young female that works on my shift that is kinda in the same situation, but I encourage her to strive for perfection. It has taken awhile but everyone has come to realize what a floozy the other woman really is. The best thing I can tell you is keep your head up, you aint there for a popularity contest, strive for perfection, eventually you will promote and the crowd will come around. Good luck

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