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Single vs. Attached
Now, I am sure that most of us would agree that being single definately makes things easier. You have no one to answer to when you don't show up cuz you're on a call, no one to check in with when you are at a fire scene for 6 hrs, etc. But my question is, does this ever work even if you find someone in the same field? I dated someone who was in EMS and he should have understood, but he got jealous if I got up to go to a call when we were hanging out, and got jealous of the time and dedication I was giving to the dept. Needless to say, he is no longer around, but I wonder does anyone have a really good thing going on where their S.O. isn't threatened by this? I get sooo tired of the drama that I see other FFs have to put up with with their GF's not understanding and constantly butting up against their dedication to the service. If it were me, I would cut them lose...but I have never had trouble breaking up with someone when it has gone south.
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Permalink Reply by Daniel J. Graham on -
"I am now, always have been, and forever shall be, my brother's keeper."
I joined the FD because it's something I've always wanted. I have an entire family that I chose to become a part of, that we all chose to become a part of. To the public, we are superheroes - we come when no one else would, and we do the impossible - save lives and protect property. To our families, both the FD and our real families, we are only human. I cannot count how many relationships of mine have ended because the fire department seemed like it was more important. Whenever someone needs our help, we are there. In the middle of the night, we go. Christmas dinner with the family - we go. Not because we want to, but because we took the responsibility of being firefighters. No one enjoys leaving their loved ones because some moron lit their house on fire or drove off the expressway. But it is a reality that we chose to live in. It becomes a part of who we are. And I, for one, refuse to be changed because someone does not like the inconveniences my life poses. You can love me or not, I am who I am. I am a firefighter, I always will be, and no one is important enough to take that away from me. And the one person that is worth it, would never ask.
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Permalink Reply by Kelsey Fosdick on -
Oh... Danny! You're so cute - how you feel about things. I love it! I love how committed you are to your department. When you think about it though, the department really is a needy girl/boyfriend.
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Permalink Reply by Loyd Dittfurth on -
i agree completely with that statement
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Permalink Reply by Daniele on -
I dated a guy who was very supportive of me being in the field... Then we got married and he flaked. So now I'm separated and caring for our four week old son on my own, funny thing is I'd stay in the field versus quiting if i had it all to do again... Does that make me a bad person???
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Permalink Reply by KimiAnn Corey on -
i totally agree. single is easier. but its also nice to go home to someone once in a while. i havent really dated anyone who got jealous over the fd. and i have also dated other fire fighters in different fds. i just go to calls with them. i either sit in the truck or flag down the amblance or bring them water and food at fires. and for anyone who is havin trouble with there bf or gf when goin to fires ,hey take them with you and let them help with water and food. just little stuff they can do after that they might understand what its like and wont be jealous anymore.
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