was i wrong?

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Permalink Reply by coronahawk on March 2, 2009 at 10:06pm

Why should you apologize? Did he apologize to you for his comment?
If you can do the job as good as or better than others, why shouldn't you be there?

Permalink Reply by Padre Pete on March 2, 2009 at 10:11pm

Ashley, If you are concerned about setting the right example as a firefighter, take it all the way and apologize. If you hadnt realized that blowing up was a mistake, you wouldnt have asked in the first place. Know this: Bigots and bullies are motivated only by fear. Thier actions serve as a defense mechanism against their being discovered as a volnurable human being. Shots like the one he took at you show a only lack of character and never a strength. You know that. The whole class knew that and, in reality, he would probably apologize himself if it were in his nature to do so. Your message wasnt wrong. Sharing it may have been inappropriate. Be the grown up, if you believe it was wrong, apologise for it. Seems he really needs to get out into The Fire Service more often. Does he have some axe to grind with you? Via con Dios.

Permalink Reply by Denise Co 29 on March 2, 2009 at 10:14pm

I feel he owes you an apology. I feel there are lots of physical things I can't do such as carrying a person from a building, some of the extracations, etc. These are things I feel the male firefighters are stronger at. This does not mean we can't do it. There is lots of things we can do. Don't feel bad about your explosion to him ,he had it coming for making the comment first. Obviously the man does not know the true meaning of the Brotherhood

Permalink Reply by Chad Furr on March 2, 2009 at 10:20pm

You go girl!! If you are able to perform your job just as good as any other FIREFIGHTER then as they say the proof will be in the pudding. Do not let 1 arogant male ruin your day. You owe this "man" (used loosely) nothing. Except to be the best you possibly can and prove him wrong. Good luck and stay safe.

Permalink Reply by SgaFemaleFirefighter on March 2, 2009 at 10:21pm

As a female firefighter, I have dealt with the same situation,. Know that first off, he's probably a little insecure in the fact that a woman can do his job as well or better than he can. Secondly, Know that you have MANY brothers out there that have your back, believe in you, and are proud of you, Don't let one out dated asshole ruin the whole thing for you. Apologize for the outburst if you feel like you need to, but don't let him get you down!!!!

Permalink Reply by Pompy on March 2, 2009 at 10:31pm

I wouldn't worry about apologizing to him especially if he didn't apologize to you for his rudeness.If you are doing the job as good as or better than others keep up the good work.

Permalink Reply by Eric on March 3, 2009 at 2:47am

Before I forget to explain what I put in my earlier post, I definately was not attacking this post of yours. I was simply hoping to give a little bit of guidance as to where to put a discussion like this. The only reason that I am explaining my post is because I know that typed words don't really have much emotion and sometimes get taken out of context. I always try to avoid having anything that I post from being taken in any sort of "attacking" manner. Since I don't truly know alot of people here, I usually try to explain myself before this can happen. Stay safe.
-Eric

Permalink Reply by rfdjumper on March 3, 2009 at 9:03am

Kali,

You are brutally honest! Gotta Love it.

Permalink Reply by MRagone on March 3, 2009 at 11:05am

I agree 100%. I know it does not feel good when people do these things but if you work in a large city, it is the norm not the exception.

mike

Permalink Reply by Rick Westerman on March 2, 2009 at 11:53pm

This is an unfortunate, misguided individual who, back in the caveman days may have been threatened by an aggressive cerebral women who saved his as-! and can't come to terms with his own fears. Embrace change, women in my dept. do very well and I'm proud to work along side such fine firefighters/paramedics they have dedicated their lives to become.

Fraternally,
Rick Westerman

Permalink Reply by LadyChaplain on March 3, 2009 at 12:00am

Been there... done that...

Permalink Reply by Fire Chick 1st. Lt. on March 3, 2009 at 1:17am

if he does yes if he doesnt no

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