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Anxiety and College Students
Again lastnight we took a call at a local college. 20 yr old female with "flu like symptoms" with a history of anxiety. I swear every college kid I come into contact with at work is under some type of treatment for anxiety? Did the parents forget to teach them that life can suck sometimes? Have parents given these kids anything and everything they ever wanted, spoiled to the core then they get to college and realize that life can in fact be a bitch?
It makes you wonder if the Barney, I Love You, You are the BEST, no need to actually track progress, just give everyone an "A" GOOD BOY/GIRL!.......No, hey, that grade sucks, we need to work on it.
Did we raise a generation of kids that demand to be treated as A-#-1 champions just for participating? At work, my younger co-workers want to be told, I shit you not, dispatch does this at the start and end of every shift now...THANK YOU FOR SIGNING IN....They demand to be THANKED for showing up for thier scheduled work shifts. WTF? MedCom......"Alpha 62, thank you for signing in, post station 2"...WTF? It has bugged me so much that when medcom says it, I reply "thank you for scheduling me today`s shift" I can understand if a crew goes over and above to get something done, to thank them, Even write them up for kudo`s from the boss. But, thanking a crew for showing up for an assigned shift? PUHLEEEEEEASE! I am thanked every 2 weeks when I cash my freakin check.
It is somewhat scarey that these kids don`t have a clue about life`s basics. Life is hard at times. We all work hard to get what we want from it. Sometimes there are failures......it`s how we learn, by failing and picking our ass up off the floor and trying again.
My stepson is a sophmore at a local college. He has NEVER HELD ANY kind of job. WTF? 19 years old! his mom and dad now sit back and wonder what is wrong with this "lazy" kid? Well, they made him that way. 24/7 you did so good on this or that!! Way to go!! No goals, boundries or rules set and enforced. I`m no hardass. I`m the biggest goob your ever meet but my goodness. As an employer, I`d look at jobs a person held while in school. It goes along the lines of life experiance. No experiance, no job from me.
We seem to spoon feed these kids that..."life is fine, you are a champion, great try" yet no backup of how things can really be. No expectations......Then they get smacked in the face with reality at college and can`t cope. It`s sad, it really is.
Sigh..
It makes you wonder if the Barney, I Love You, You are the BEST, no need to actually track progress, just give everyone an "A" GOOD BOY/GIRL!.......No, hey, that grade sucks, we need to work on it.
Did we raise a generation of kids that demand to be treated as A-#-1 champions just for participating? At work, my younger co-workers want to be told, I shit you not, dispatch does this at the start and end of every shift now...THANK YOU FOR SIGNING IN....They demand to be THANKED for showing up for thier scheduled work shifts. WTF? MedCom......"Alpha 62, thank you for signing in, post station 2"...WTF? It has bugged me so much that when medcom says it, I reply "thank you for scheduling me today`s shift" I can understand if a crew goes over and above to get something done, to thank them, Even write them up for kudo`s from the boss. But, thanking a crew for showing up for an assigned shift? PUHLEEEEEEASE! I am thanked every 2 weeks when I cash my freakin check.
It is somewhat scarey that these kids don`t have a clue about life`s basics. Life is hard at times. We all work hard to get what we want from it. Sometimes there are failures......it`s how we learn, by failing and picking our ass up off the floor and trying again.
My stepson is a sophmore at a local college. He has NEVER HELD ANY kind of job. WTF? 19 years old! his mom and dad now sit back and wonder what is wrong with this "lazy" kid? Well, they made him that way. 24/7 you did so good on this or that!! Way to go!! No goals, boundries or rules set and enforced. I`m no hardass. I`m the biggest goob your ever meet but my goodness. As an employer, I`d look at jobs a person held while in school. It goes along the lines of life experiance. No experiance, no job from me.
We seem to spoon feed these kids that..."life is fine, you are a champion, great try" yet no backup of how things can really be. No expectations......Then they get smacked in the face with reality at college and can`t cope. It`s sad, it really is.
Sigh..
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Permalink Reply by Ralph L. Carr IV on -
I don`t lump all my younger co-workers in the lazy group. Just the ones who seem to think that they are at work just to punch in. They get pissed when they have to take calls, clean a rig, heaven forbid they mop the station or take out the trash. Their line is usually..."I don`t get paid to do that, I get paid to save lives"...OMG, give me a freakin break.
It seems to be the 20-27 year olds that are in this group. Now, saying that, there are lazy older co-workers too. The "I`ve been here for X number of years, I paid my dues....."......Well `old fart, it`s an equal game here. We are all to take runs, clean quarters, clean rigs, restock rigs, ect....
I don`t want to get too far off topic here. It`s just sad to me that this younger group hasn`t been educated in the reality of life by their parents. Those parents that let kids play video games 24/7, watch TV all day & night, never challenge them or set boundries or goals. Yes, it`s good to praise your kids, but that goes to a fault if you don`t also critique them when they are wrong or lacking.
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Permalink Reply by Doug on -
"I don`t lump all my younger co-workers in the lazy group. Just the ones who seem to think that they are at work just to punch in. They get pissed when they have to take calls, clean a rig, heaven forbid they mop the station or take out the trash. Their line is usually..."I don`t get paid to do that, I get paid to save lives"...OMG, give me a freakin break."
Carry a piece of paper and pen around with you. Whenever someone gives you that line, younger or one of the old farts, write down the opposite on that piece of paper, throw it in their lap as they sit in the recliner and watch tv and say, "Here, I just rewrote your contract, now go clean the truck!" : )
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Permalink Reply by Ralph L. Carr IV on
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LOL......Nah, I usually shake my head and walk away and do my job. I set an example by doing the job. If they still sit on their rear, I smile and tell them what a lazy Mo-Fo they are and if it keeps up, I`ll write them up. I`ve been known to call a sup in front of the one that`s being lazy and talk about it right in front of them. I first try to get them to see how lazy they are being. If that doesn`t work, I explain it to them. If THAT doesn`t work, I write them up. It`s never gotten past the "write up" except once and that was for patient care and nothing to do with non-patient related job duties.
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Permalink Reply by Mitchell Murray on -
As a young 21 year old who just graduated college. . . . .I look back on how my parents raised me, and it made me who I am today. I worked as soon as I could . . .at the time 15 or 16. I always had a job while in school, during the summer I'd take an extra job at a factory just to get some extra cash flow and to change it up a bit. Long story short, there were many things I really wanted - TV, guitar, xbox. . .ect. I worked for those items and I worked hard. It felt great getting enough money and going out and buying that TV knowing you truely earned it. Had I had parents who would have just handed me over a tv and not make me work for it - I too, would have been one of those college students with anxiety problems. However, I learned from an early age that you have to work hard to get what you want. Life isn't this easy give me what I want crap. I'm so thankful for the way I was raised - Now being grad. from college working full time at Upstate New York Transplant Services, It's just like my early years, just at a higher level. I don't have much anxiety in my life - I have my days, but the majority of the time my days rock.
Parents need to make thier kids work for what they want. Parents need to stop giving and giving crap to thier kids. It pisses me off - I drive a 01 Alero. . . nothing great - yet I look out at these kids younger than I am driving mommy and daddy's BMW or Hummer. These kids will never grow up. Let them start paying for insurance and cell phone bills. Give them some responsibility so that when they do go off to college and the big "oh no mommy and daddy aren't here" shit doesn't happen.
Okay, well I'm super tired. Probably messed alot of what I wanted to say with my partial sleep deprivation (thanks to those EMS calls). Enough said for me for one night, and hopefully it's not to confusing or to runnin on
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Permalink Reply by Ralph L. Carr IV on
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Mitchell..........Thank You.....
There IS hope afterall.....lol....
But you really did hit the nail on the head. My son detasseled corn when he was 13 because he wanted his own computer. Not to say he wasn`t given things as he grew, but that made him respect himself. You will be a better provider if you have life experiances. You seem on the right track. I wish my parents taught me how to spell better....lol....
I do work with a few young people who work 2 or 3 jobs. They bust butt to put themselves thru school. They have stress at times but very little anxiety about life itself.
I`m sure your parents are proud of you.
I guess I got my first job doing yard work because I wanted to wear Lee jeans. Not those crappy Ruslter`s, the only thing my parents could afford at the time. We had pong....LOL....no X box or PC3. Look it up in the video game history books.....lol....
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Permalink Reply by Chief Dino on -
Ooooo. . . .pong. . .green screen or black and white?
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Permalink Reply by Ralph L. Carr IV on
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Yeah buddy!!.......we was RICH I TELL YA! We had BOTH!!
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Permalink Reply by Paul Montpetit on
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What mor eis there to say...? You pretty much said it all.....The real scarey part is that is our future......
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