Relationships in the firehouse...what's your take?

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Permalink Reply by Engineco913 on August 28, 2007 at 4:01pm

In my opinion, your a firefighter before you became in a relationship. Not all relationships end in a peaceful manner. With this being said, its up to both parties involved to remain professional, and keep their personal lives at the door before walking in the firehouse. It's a dangerous game we play, and we all need a clear mind before going to work. Remaining professional on both sides will speak milestones about who you are. I personally wouldn't date anyone from the firehouse (being a Lieutenant) I feel it would and or could become a conflict of interest, but thats just my opinion

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Permalink Reply by Kevin King on August 28, 2007 at 4:13pm

In short DONT DO IT,no matter it will cause some sort of a glich in the program,be it emotional or physical.Separate stations and shifts maybe but same house no good.Had some good friends that tried it,danger does strange things to emotions and it distracts everyone around.

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Permalink Reply by Sandy113 on August 28, 2007 at 4:46pm

googd points, both of you. i also feel that if you can't seperate personal time from fd time, then you shouldn't be together. at first me and my boyfriend weren't al;lowed on the same aparatus since he is a lieutenant, the higher ups thought that he might try to protect only me and ditch his crew when the shit hits the fan. however, we have both proved that we trust our fellow firefighters enough to know that when we aren't together on the firegrounds that the other is in safe hands.

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Permalink Reply by Kevin King on August 28, 2007 at 5:07pm

Emotions tend to override rational thought thus the possibility of someone getting hurt because of distraction

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Permalink Reply by Matthew on August 29, 2007 at 2:52am

Wow...dating an officer*... That is simply trouble. Beyond the point that dating in the firehouse(and EMS is included in the firehouse) is a bad idea. It creates problems... Don't S#@$ where you eat, Firefighting is a job and I am hardcore against dating in the workplace.

* By the way being your boyfriend is the Lieutenant, he is leaving himself wide open for compromising his credibility as an officer. All someone has to do is accuse him of favortism on your behalf, or for himto settle something with you involved as an officer, and it's over for him. He will lose the respect and trust he has worked hard to gain in an instant... It's just a BAD BAD idea

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Permalink Reply by Angela Lee on March 31, 2008 at 1:36pm

I have to disagree with you as I feel that my spouse is harder on me then others. He is a captain and we have no problems with this. Many departments have families in them and we are getting ready to bring our son into it. I just don't think that as long as two people know the boundaries that this should not be a problem.

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Permalink Reply by Band of Brothers pipes and drums on April 23, 2008 at 10:43pm

Your kidding yourself and Matthew is so beyond correct.... Boundaries be damned. If nothing else youre putting your BF in a hell of a spot. If it came down to it and he had to settle an issue between you and another blackhat he can never say youre right, it wasnt your fault, whatever. When he does someone will shout in a loud in clear voice, "FAVORITISM" and it will be heard all the way to the chiefs office. If the chief does nothing and sides with your BF, it will plant a seed of disdain between him (youor BF) and the rest of the dept. that will grow over time. If the chief feels the complaint had merit he (your BF) most certainly be labeled from there on out.

If you 2 choose to stay together and its a career dept. it may not be a huge deal. You dont have to depend on the income is where Im going. Your beau can resign his bars and you 2 kids stay locked up together like eels, no biggie. If your sereious thats one option or you might have to never be on a fire scene together. But doing what your doing wont work for long

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Permalink Reply by turk182 on August 28, 2007 at 5:26pm

I know from my station that when we have to correct someone for something they did then either the boyfriend or the girlfriend try to stick up for each other and it should not be that way. If they did something wrong and the officer incharge wants to talk to the about it the the otherhalf of the couple should not get involved.

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Permalink Reply by Angela Lee on March 31, 2008 at 1:37pm

We agree. This is not a prooblem where I am from. We have three couples that belong to the station and we do just fine.

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Permalink Reply by Erin Shea on August 28, 2007 at 5:32pm

Personally I do not believe in dating anyone in my fire house, nor have I ever dated anyone in my fire house. It can go either way depending on the people involved in the relationship. The points to think about are if the relationship goes downhill do you really want your dirty laudry being aired out at the fire station? It also goes the other way, if something happens to the person you care about at a fire scene are you going to be able to still perform your job? I know I would never want to work with someone I cared about, if something ever happened to them and I couldn't help.....that would really bother me.

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Permalink Reply by Kevin King on August 28, 2007 at 5:44pm

Thats The Emotions thing I mentioned

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Permalink Reply by Erin Shea on August 28, 2007 at 6:09pm

Not to mention who really wants everyone at the fire house to about their proverbial "dirty laundry". When emotions run high people tend to say things that shouldn't be said, ie to hurt the other person or make them look bad! Nuff said there!

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